Memories are made all the time. Some are impromptu, others are planned. Both are wonderful.
I visited with my little cousin and her family in early April. An annual event that has now become a 2 day affair. I had the opportunity to bond with each family member - we ate, laughed, talked, played games and loved one another. They made my heart swell.
Last week we went to California for my cousin's wedding. Cousins gathered from all over. We ate, laughed, talked, and perhaps imbibed a little more than we should have. This was a "once in a lifetime event" - so honored to be a part of it.
I have all these memories tucked into my "vault". Life has its ups and downs. When it is UP, I can enjoy the moment. When it is DOWN, I can easily reach into my vault and enjoy the warmth that surrounds me. I am grateful. I am blessed.
Friday, April 20, 2012
Wednesday, April 04, 2012
Some Stresses
I hear young mothers say how they worry about their little ones - and they wonder how long they will have to worry - The answer is: you worry forever!
The Groom decided that it was time for him to buy his much desired motorcycle. He has wanted one for years.... he was still living at home the last time he was close to buying one. We pulled the "not while you are living under our roof" card and got away with it - WHEW!! He bought a dog instead! Sammy, the English Bulldog, continues to live with us. Hmm, perhaps if he bought the motorcycle back then, I would be taking it back and forth to work now..... but I digress!
Oldest son had to be rushed to "Urgent Care" last weekend. He passed out (in our livingroom) and landed on his face. After I "ripped the eyeglasses" from the bloody wound, he needed to have some stitches strategically placed. I complimented the doctor on his stitching technique and offered to remove the stitches when the time comes. Hope to get him to split his fee with me!
Allison arrived in NY the Winter of 2011 only to experience the the WORST Winter in history. She is on her way home from Dallas today - yeterday, Dallas was hit with the worst Tornadoes in their history. Hmmm, I'm sensing a trend...
I think these instances are just God's way of reminding me that HE is in charge and I must never forget it. Easter is Sunday... time for new beginnings once again.
God help the kid who aggravates me first!
The Groom decided that it was time for him to buy his much desired motorcycle. He has wanted one for years.... he was still living at home the last time he was close to buying one. We pulled the "not while you are living under our roof" card and got away with it - WHEW!! He bought a dog instead! Sammy, the English Bulldog, continues to live with us. Hmm, perhaps if he bought the motorcycle back then, I would be taking it back and forth to work now..... but I digress!
Oldest son had to be rushed to "Urgent Care" last weekend. He passed out (in our livingroom) and landed on his face. After I "ripped the eyeglasses" from the bloody wound, he needed to have some stitches strategically placed. I complimented the doctor on his stitching technique and offered to remove the stitches when the time comes. Hope to get him to split his fee with me!
Allison arrived in NY the Winter of 2011 only to experience the the WORST Winter in history. She is on her way home from Dallas today - yeterday, Dallas was hit with the worst Tornadoes in their history. Hmmm, I'm sensing a trend...
I think these instances are just God's way of reminding me that HE is in charge and I must never forget it. Easter is Sunday... time for new beginnings once again.
God help the kid who aggravates me first!
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
And the search begins
It seems the future bride and groom have everything under control - there is something to be said about 2 adults getting married as opposed to 2 kids. They are only 26 yrs. old, but they are wise beyond their years. The church and the hall are reserved, the photographer is hired, the DJ is booked, and the flowers are ordered. Even the bride's dress has been taken care of!
And now the search begins for my dress. I am looking for something that falls into the category between "frumpy mother of the groom" and "slutty mother of the groom". From what I have witnessed, all boutiques only have dresses that fall into those two categories. At this time I have found that either I choose something that has 30 yards of chiffon (reminiscent of something that they buried my dead grandmother in years ago) or something cut way down to my navel that will need a hot glue gun and staples to adhere it to my body.
The experiences have not been totally unpleasant - having to come out of the dressing room before Allison and Mr. Wonderful as they critique these dresses has been a hilarious experience. Allison has been encouraging me to "invite the girls to the party" - while Mr. W steps up to me and pulls the front of the dresses up and aks the salesgirl if they can add sturdy straps to hold it up!
Who decides what size samples they carry in these boutiques? All the chiffon ones were a size 24 and all the "hotsy totsy" ones were a size 2. REALLY???? Are there really no samples in a normal size????
I am not giving up.... I will search and search for as long as necessary. I am bound and determined to look like the "hot, sophisticated mother of the groom" - afterall, showing up in blue jeans and sneakers was not an option according to my son.
And now the search begins for my dress. I am looking for something that falls into the category between "frumpy mother of the groom" and "slutty mother of the groom". From what I have witnessed, all boutiques only have dresses that fall into those two categories. At this time I have found that either I choose something that has 30 yards of chiffon (reminiscent of something that they buried my dead grandmother in years ago) or something cut way down to my navel that will need a hot glue gun and staples to adhere it to my body.
The experiences have not been totally unpleasant - having to come out of the dressing room before Allison and Mr. Wonderful as they critique these dresses has been a hilarious experience. Allison has been encouraging me to "invite the girls to the party" - while Mr. W steps up to me and pulls the front of the dresses up and aks the salesgirl if they can add sturdy straps to hold it up!
Who decides what size samples they carry in these boutiques? All the chiffon ones were a size 24 and all the "hotsy totsy" ones were a size 2. REALLY???? Are there really no samples in a normal size????
I am not giving up.... I will search and search for as long as necessary. I am bound and determined to look like the "hot, sophisticated mother of the groom" - afterall, showing up in blue jeans and sneakers was not an option according to my son.
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
Back to Reality
We just came back from our annual trip to the Caribbean. We have gone enough times now - we really have the system down pat: Sleep, eat, relax, eat, walk on beach, relax, eat, sleep. The resort was beautiful, the weather was cooperative, the company was fabulous!
It is not easy for us to go on vacation. How do you leave 5 dogs, 4 indoor cats, and a hoard of stray cats that rely on Mr. Wonderful's kindness to get them through the Winter?? Although Allison lives with us, her schedule is too crazy to handle all that needed to be done. We enlisted the help of Bobby. He was a great sport and moved into our house for the week and he and his sister did a bang-up job of taking care of everything.
It is not easy finding gifts on the island to bring home to your adult children. I was not bringing them trinkets or Tee-Shirts. Mr. W. had a better plan. He went to the duty-free shop and bought them "thank-you" gifts.
We bought Allison a carton of cigarettes (save your comments... she smokes, get over it). We bought Bobby a bottle of booze. The kids were so grateful when they opened their gifts - they said, "We have the BEST parents. They go on vacation and bring us home cigarettes and scotch. We might as well be Sinatras!" Gotta love their enthusiasm!
It is not easy for us to go on vacation. How do you leave 5 dogs, 4 indoor cats, and a hoard of stray cats that rely on Mr. Wonderful's kindness to get them through the Winter?? Although Allison lives with us, her schedule is too crazy to handle all that needed to be done. We enlisted the help of Bobby. He was a great sport and moved into our house for the week and he and his sister did a bang-up job of taking care of everything.
It is not easy finding gifts on the island to bring home to your adult children. I was not bringing them trinkets or Tee-Shirts. Mr. W. had a better plan. He went to the duty-free shop and bought them "thank-you" gifts.
We bought Allison a carton of cigarettes (save your comments... she smokes, get over it). We bought Bobby a bottle of booze. The kids were so grateful when they opened their gifts - they said, "We have the BEST parents. They go on vacation and bring us home cigarettes and scotch. We might as well be Sinatras!" Gotta love their enthusiasm!
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
East meets West
We had dinner with Suse's family this past weekend, ie. "The official meeting of the parents". What a wonderful time we had!
I thoroughly enjoyed each moment of the hours we were there. People have been asking if we all discussed the wedding. Quite frankly, the subject of the wedding barely came up. There were more important things to talk about. We exchanged stories, shared good food and had many laughs. It was quite clear that they loved their daughter just as much as we loved our son. Most importantly, they loved our son as much as we loved their daughter.
It was not until days later that I really realized what happened that evening. Here were 2 families coming together - with nothing in common except that their kids fell in love. Somehow, that was enough glue to bond the relationship between us. Looking forward to watching the future unfold with our extended family.
I thoroughly enjoyed each moment of the hours we were there. People have been asking if we all discussed the wedding. Quite frankly, the subject of the wedding barely came up. There were more important things to talk about. We exchanged stories, shared good food and had many laughs. It was quite clear that they loved their daughter just as much as we loved our son. Most importantly, they loved our son as much as we loved their daughter.
It was not until days later that I really realized what happened that evening. Here were 2 families coming together - with nothing in common except that their kids fell in love. Somehow, that was enough glue to bond the relationship between us. Looking forward to watching the future unfold with our extended family.
Friday, January 06, 2012
Christmas Angels
Ally - nearly 10
Ava - 5 1/2
"I carry your hearts with me... I carry them in my heart"
Christmas
I still feel the need to provide some magic on Christmas for my family. It was going to be tough this year... All the kids are doing well financially so a fat check was not going to make an impact, I needed to come up with a new plan.
I brought my sister up as a surprise! It was perfect! Even Mr. Wonderful had no clue! I left my house as if I was going to the office, only to return with my sister in the car! I asked Mr. W to please get the package from my front seat - He was shocked! Okay, one down 10 more to go!
We showed up at Allison's restaurant and totally shocked her as well!! This was too easy - LOL!!
Christmas Eve, Wendy and my mom came over - BOOM! Another surprise for them!!
Christmas Day - Bobby and Suse - BAM!! - YAY!! Then the rest of the clan showed up - SURPRISE!!! -
We made a lot of nice memories.... It was a wonderfully magical Christmas!
Me, brother and sister
A perfect Centerpiece!
Grandma with the future Bride and Groom
Allison in her "Lazy All Day" outfit - note the "bacon and egg" shoes
Sunday, December 04, 2011
December 3
Today, we celebrated our 34th Wedding Anniversary. I was 20 yrs. old when we married - WHAT WAS I THINKING??? LOL!!
I remember the day as if it was yesterday. The weather was unseasonably warm. My father and I walked arm and arm to Aunt Tessie's house for a simple lunch - some homemade meatballs, Italian bread, and a glass of wine. The photographer was coming at 5 and the limo was picking us up at 5:30 - we hurried back to his apartment. A favorite Uncle of mine surprised us with an impromptu visit - a very special moment for both of us...
Finally, we are on our way to the Church - I will never forget the love in my dad's eyes that day. As we stood in the Church vestibule, waiting to make our entrance, he said to me, "I love you and I want you to be happy... Say the word and we will walk out of here and never look back." I assured him that "I was sure, I was in love, I was happy" - and down the aisle we went...
As they say... the rest is history.
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
And the holidays begin...
After last year's fire, I was determined to start the holidays off with a bang this year - and just continue the celebration all year long.
The wreath made it to the front door on the Saturday BEFORE Thanksgiving - a record for us!!
On Wednesday, 2 of Allison's past roommates from Key West flew up to be with us. Chad and Greg were wonderful hosts during our annual girls' trip to Key West last year, so we were all looking forward to seeing them once again. This was the first time in over 10 years that Allison was spending Thanksgiving with us - I was so happy when the boys planned to join us - It was a special day for all of us!
There is something to be said about having "restaurant people" for dinner - Allison orchestrated the entire clean-up. I never left the table!! Thank you Allison, Chad, Greg, Bobby and Suse - you guys did a fanstastic job - and I know I used nearly every plate, bowl and platter I own!!
On Friday, I am sure most people relaxed or went shopping - NOT US!! Allison, the boys and I trekked into the City for a fabulous lunch at Becco (Lidia's restaurant) - then off to Rockefeller Center for a peek at the tree and store windows - then finally to Broadway to see "Priscilla, Queen of the Desert" - We MAY have stopped for a cocktail or two along the way! - What a wonderful day!!
On Saturday - Mr. Wonderful and I ventured over to New Jersey to see my treasured cousins. Lunch with Little Angela and her family, a visit with Cousin Paul and his family - and finally dinner with Cousin Kathy and some good friends. A BIG thank you Mr. W for NEVER complaining about the drive there or back.
- (All those faces made sitting in traffic worthwhile)
Last field trip of the weekend: Sunday Brunch with all the kids, then a trip to the airport to send Chad and Greg home...
We had a wonderful time this weekend - more importantly, I am hoping we started some new Holiday traditions.
The holidays are what we make of them.... I am choosing to make wonderful memories...
The wreath made it to the front door on the Saturday BEFORE Thanksgiving - a record for us!!
On Wednesday, 2 of Allison's past roommates from Key West flew up to be with us. Chad and Greg were wonderful hosts during our annual girls' trip to Key West last year, so we were all looking forward to seeing them once again. This was the first time in over 10 years that Allison was spending Thanksgiving with us - I was so happy when the boys planned to join us - It was a special day for all of us!
There is something to be said about having "restaurant people" for dinner - Allison orchestrated the entire clean-up. I never left the table!! Thank you Allison, Chad, Greg, Bobby and Suse - you guys did a fanstastic job - and I know I used nearly every plate, bowl and platter I own!!
On Friday, I am sure most people relaxed or went shopping - NOT US!! Allison, the boys and I trekked into the City for a fabulous lunch at Becco (Lidia's restaurant) - then off to Rockefeller Center for a peek at the tree and store windows - then finally to Broadway to see "Priscilla, Queen of the Desert" - We MAY have stopped for a cocktail or two along the way! - What a wonderful day!!
On Saturday - Mr. Wonderful and I ventured over to New Jersey to see my treasured cousins. Lunch with Little Angela and her family, a visit with Cousin Paul and his family - and finally dinner with Cousin Kathy and some good friends. A BIG thank you Mr. W for NEVER complaining about the drive there or back.
- (All those faces made sitting in traffic worthwhile)Last field trip of the weekend: Sunday Brunch with all the kids, then a trip to the airport to send Chad and Greg home...
We had a wonderful time this weekend - more importantly, I am hoping we started some new Holiday traditions.
The holidays are what we make of them.... I am choosing to make wonderful memories...
Monday, November 21, 2011
Growing by 2 feet!
So happy to announce that Bobby has propsed to Suse and she has agreed to marry him. And so our family will grow once again! They are college sweethearts, dating for 5 years. They have done everything "by the book". It is so nice to have something wonderful and exciting to look forward to.
This seems to be the perfect way to jump start the holiday season. So many things have gone through my mind - all of them about the upcoming wedding - but, just for now, I think I am going to enjoy the moment, savor each detail.
Wishing them a lifetime of togetherness.... Joys added, Sorrows subtracted, Happiness multiplied, and Love undivided.
This seems to be the perfect way to jump start the holiday season. So many things have gone through my mind - all of them about the upcoming wedding - but, just for now, I think I am going to enjoy the moment, savor each detail.
Wishing them a lifetime of togetherness.... Joys added, Sorrows subtracted, Happiness multiplied, and Love undivided.
Thursday, October 20, 2011
The Sandwich Generation
We are officialy the "sandwich" generation. We are responsible for the care of our aging parents as well as the care of our children.
Thankfully, our children are all adults - but I did not find the switch to "turn off the worry". Please, if any of you know where it is, send me directions!! I am still amazed at how much we worry about our kids. Did our parents worry about us like this??? I think I am still trying to be "Super-Mom" - be all things to all kids. That job is getting old real fast!
Now, we throw my mother in to the mix. She is the only "grandparent" still alive. She is getting on in years. She lives alone. She has chosen to live in Ridge, or as I like to call it, "Guam". I constantly find myself tossed between spending the weekends with Mr. Wonderful and my kids OR trudging out to Guam.
I have spent my entire married life trying to be a good wife and mother. Now, I am struggling with being a dutiful daughter as well. I want to be a good role model for my kids - but then again, I DO NOT WANT THEM WORRYING ABOUT ME when I am older. There has to be an answer to this puzzle.... I just can't seem to figure this out...
Thankfully, our children are all adults - but I did not find the switch to "turn off the worry". Please, if any of you know where it is, send me directions!! I am still amazed at how much we worry about our kids. Did our parents worry about us like this??? I think I am still trying to be "Super-Mom" - be all things to all kids. That job is getting old real fast!
Now, we throw my mother in to the mix. She is the only "grandparent" still alive. She is getting on in years. She lives alone. She has chosen to live in Ridge, or as I like to call it, "Guam". I constantly find myself tossed between spending the weekends with Mr. Wonderful and my kids OR trudging out to Guam.
I have spent my entire married life trying to be a good wife and mother. Now, I am struggling with being a dutiful daughter as well. I want to be a good role model for my kids - but then again, I DO NOT WANT THEM WORRYING ABOUT ME when I am older. There has to be an answer to this puzzle.... I just can't seem to figure this out...
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Shhhh... Can you hear that?
As I was walking the pups this morning, it was exceptionally quiet outside. There were no cars, no garbagemen, no school buses yet.
The lawn was still wet with dew. The moon was still visible and the sun was still rising. You could hear the birds chirping in the distance... It was still a little chilly, but there was a promise of warmer weather to come later in the day.
I wonder how many mornings I missed these same occurrences? When was the last time you witnessed the serenity of a Fall morning??
Life is way too short, and we only get one shot at it. This morning I had a wake-up call to stop and enjoy all the beauty that surrounds me. I hope this serves as a reminder to you, too.
The lawn was still wet with dew. The moon was still visible and the sun was still rising. You could hear the birds chirping in the distance... It was still a little chilly, but there was a promise of warmer weather to come later in the day.
I wonder how many mornings I missed these same occurrences? When was the last time you witnessed the serenity of a Fall morning??
Life is way too short, and we only get one shot at it. This morning I had a wake-up call to stop and enjoy all the beauty that surrounds me. I hope this serves as a reminder to you, too.
Friday, September 16, 2011
Hurricane Irene
Long Island had its first hurricane in many, many years. We live 3 houses away from the water, so naturally, we were under mandatory evacuation. So, naturally, we went nowhere!!
We were the only ones left on the block. Bobby lives on the fourth floor of his building, so we told him to stay put! Michelle lives on the water, so she packed up her husband and their dog and camped out with us.
Since Allison was the one who has had so much hurricane experience - (nicknamed FEMA by the other restaurant owners) - she took control of the situation and we were all given assignments:
Mr. Wonderful got on the roof and secured the flashing around the chimneys and taped up all the skylights. He brought in everything from outdoors that could be moved (furniture, plants, small trees, etc.) He made sandbags and put them by the garage doors to stop flood waters from invading us. He filled the empty bottles from our water cooler with water in case we would need them to flush the toilets in later days.
I was in charge of food - I cooked up lots of things that were in the freezer in the event that we lost power. I could always heat things on the gas BBQ. I had enough food prepared to last a week!!
Allison made sure we had plenty of ice - and "adult libations".
Michelle took care of snacks and "adult libations".
Michael was in charge of keeping himself sober enough to get his sisters safely to bed!
We already had an ample supply of flashlights, batteries and candles. All that was left was to wait for the storm to hit.
We set up a makeshift bedroom with an air mattress for Michelle and hubby in between the livingroom and diningroom. We designated the garage as the smoking section. And we proceeded to do what we do best - HAVE A PARTY!!!
I am happy to say that we did not sustain any damage during the storm. We did lose electricity for a couple days AFTER the storm and we adapted just fine.
When we look back at "Hurricane Irene" - I am sure we will each remember all the laughs that we shared that night. We managed to make a wonderful memory from a "natural disaster". I am so proud to be the Mom in this family.
We were the only ones left on the block. Bobby lives on the fourth floor of his building, so we told him to stay put! Michelle lives on the water, so she packed up her husband and their dog and camped out with us.
Since Allison was the one who has had so much hurricane experience - (nicknamed FEMA by the other restaurant owners) - she took control of the situation and we were all given assignments:
Mr. Wonderful got on the roof and secured the flashing around the chimneys and taped up all the skylights. He brought in everything from outdoors that could be moved (furniture, plants, small trees, etc.) He made sandbags and put them by the garage doors to stop flood waters from invading us. He filled the empty bottles from our water cooler with water in case we would need them to flush the toilets in later days.
I was in charge of food - I cooked up lots of things that were in the freezer in the event that we lost power. I could always heat things on the gas BBQ. I had enough food prepared to last a week!!
Allison made sure we had plenty of ice - and "adult libations".
Michelle took care of snacks and "adult libations".
Michael was in charge of keeping himself sober enough to get his sisters safely to bed!
We already had an ample supply of flashlights, batteries and candles. All that was left was to wait for the storm to hit.
We set up a makeshift bedroom with an air mattress for Michelle and hubby in between the livingroom and diningroom. We designated the garage as the smoking section. And we proceeded to do what we do best - HAVE A PARTY!!!
I am happy to say that we did not sustain any damage during the storm. We did lose electricity for a couple days AFTER the storm and we adapted just fine.
When we look back at "Hurricane Irene" - I am sure we will each remember all the laughs that we shared that night. We managed to make a wonderful memory from a "natural disaster". I am so proud to be the Mom in this family.
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
Change is good
I do apologize to my faithful readers... I know it has been a while...
It has been an amazing Summer in that I made up my mind to enjoy every single day of this lovely weather. I have been going to the beach as often as I can, basking in the sunshine and enjoying the gentle roar of the ocean. I have been cleaning the house less and reading more. This is a major change for me, but I figured it was about time I re-prioritized my life.
I am not sure if it was the fire.... or Allison moving back home.... or watching Mr. Wonderful turn 60 - but I know I have changed this year. Change is good.
I am in touch with more family members on a regular basis (you gotta love texting, email and facebook!!) I formed a book club with my twin 10 yr old cousins! This simple little task has brought us close even though there are 100 miles between us! I play scrabble (on my phone) with several 'out-of state' cousins everyday. I am watching one of my "newest" cousins grown up with a new picture everyday - thanks to my iPhone as well!
Allison and I took an impromptu trip to Florida just to visit my sister. It was wonderful just relaxing in her pool each day and sitting around the table each evening re-connecting. There was something magical about that weekend...
We spent an extended weekend in my Aunt's house in NJ - where I spent all my Summers growing up. All 8 of us slept in a teeny tiny house with one bathroom. This was the kids' idea of how we should spend Mr. W's 60th birthday!! Happy to say that these kids did not miss a beat all weekend long; they laughed and partied and we made wonderful memories. I am sure the police officer who showed up on Saturday night will remember us fondly, as well!!
I am paying more attention to my friends - making more time for "Girls' Night Out" - even if we are all home by 8:00pm!! This is always a successful therapy session for all of us.
I am buying fresh flowers to put in the vase for me to see as I enter the house each day. I am using the 'good' wine glasses all the time. I have finally tossed the frayed towels in the linen closet and spent a couple bucks to buy new ones.
The biggest and best change of all..... I have convinced Mr. Wonderful that when we get an invitation to go somewhere we should ALWAYS accept if possible. Life is too short.... and getting shorter every day...
It has been an amazing Summer in that I made up my mind to enjoy every single day of this lovely weather. I have been going to the beach as often as I can, basking in the sunshine and enjoying the gentle roar of the ocean. I have been cleaning the house less and reading more. This is a major change for me, but I figured it was about time I re-prioritized my life.
I am not sure if it was the fire.... or Allison moving back home.... or watching Mr. Wonderful turn 60 - but I know I have changed this year. Change is good.
I am in touch with more family members on a regular basis (you gotta love texting, email and facebook!!) I formed a book club with my twin 10 yr old cousins! This simple little task has brought us close even though there are 100 miles between us! I play scrabble (on my phone) with several 'out-of state' cousins everyday. I am watching one of my "newest" cousins grown up with a new picture everyday - thanks to my iPhone as well!
Allison and I took an impromptu trip to Florida just to visit my sister. It was wonderful just relaxing in her pool each day and sitting around the table each evening re-connecting. There was something magical about that weekend...
We spent an extended weekend in my Aunt's house in NJ - where I spent all my Summers growing up. All 8 of us slept in a teeny tiny house with one bathroom. This was the kids' idea of how we should spend Mr. W's 60th birthday!! Happy to say that these kids did not miss a beat all weekend long; they laughed and partied and we made wonderful memories. I am sure the police officer who showed up on Saturday night will remember us fondly, as well!!
I am paying more attention to my friends - making more time for "Girls' Night Out" - even if we are all home by 8:00pm!! This is always a successful therapy session for all of us.
I am buying fresh flowers to put in the vase for me to see as I enter the house each day. I am using the 'good' wine glasses all the time. I have finally tossed the frayed towels in the linen closet and spent a couple bucks to buy new ones.
The biggest and best change of all..... I have convinced Mr. Wonderful that when we get an invitation to go somewhere we should ALWAYS accept if possible. Life is too short.... and getting shorter every day...
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
a side note
I normally do not fill this page with nonsense.... but, just this once, I digress...
So, I was standing in the doorway to my kitchen the other night observing my Mr. Wonderful as he was putting some items in the dishwasher. All the silverware went in no problem. He was even able to put in the dinner plates without any hesitation. THEN THE FUN BEGAN!! He proceeded to spend the next 15 minutes rearranging the top shelf of the dishwasher so he could "squeeze" in one bowl.
SERIOUSLY????? He could have washed that bowl 10 times in the time it took him to rearrange everything. WHO DOES STUFF LIKE THAT?????
....hands off, ladies.... He's ALL MINE!!!...
So, I was standing in the doorway to my kitchen the other night observing my Mr. Wonderful as he was putting some items in the dishwasher. All the silverware went in no problem. He was even able to put in the dinner plates without any hesitation. THEN THE FUN BEGAN!! He proceeded to spend the next 15 minutes rearranging the top shelf of the dishwasher so he could "squeeze" in one bowl.
SERIOUSLY????? He could have washed that bowl 10 times in the time it took him to rearrange everything. WHO DOES STUFF LIKE THAT?????
....hands off, ladies.... He's ALL MINE!!!...
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Didja Ever?
Didja ever wonder if you were doing it right?
Didja ever wonder WHY?
Didja ever wonder if there were pieces missing?
Didja ever wonder if you were missing "the message"?
... I was just wonderin'...
Didja ever wonder WHY?
Didja ever wonder if there were pieces missing?
Didja ever wonder if you were missing "the message"?
... I was just wonderin'...
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Father's Day
This past Sunday was Father's Day - so while the rest of the country was honoring their dads - we were having a regular Sunday dinner - with the exception of a few extra greeting cards and gifts to open.
I did not host extended family this year - just Mr. Wonderful and the kids. It was a PERFECT day. No stress, lots of laughter, good food and a general "happiness in the air". The older we get, the more we appreciate being around our children. They are so diverse, so fun, and when they get together, all they want to do is laugh - IS THERE ANYTHING BETTER??
I always say that we had our kids when we were young, poor and stupid - perhaps we were not so stupid afterall???
I did not host extended family this year - just Mr. Wonderful and the kids. It was a PERFECT day. No stress, lots of laughter, good food and a general "happiness in the air". The older we get, the more we appreciate being around our children. They are so diverse, so fun, and when they get together, all they want to do is laugh - IS THERE ANYTHING BETTER??
I always say that we had our kids when we were young, poor and stupid - perhaps we were not so stupid afterall???
Thursday, June 16, 2011
Summer List
OKAY - Summer is here - time for a new list:
For the grill:
Hot Dogs
Homemade Turkery burgers
Skirt Steaks
Yukon Gold Potatoes
Chicken Wings
Kielbasi
For the yard:
Hammock
Swing
Umbrella and Picnic Table
For the Deck:
New cushions for the chairs
Plant all the herbs
Strategically placed flower pots
For the Mental Vacation:
Margaritas
Sunrise Margaritas
Ice Cold Beer
Sweet Peach Tea Cocktails
Assorted Bellinis
Mimosas
CHECK...CHECK.....CHECK.....CHECK!
Bring on the Sunshine!
For the grill:
Hot Dogs
Homemade Turkery burgers
Skirt Steaks
Yukon Gold Potatoes
Chicken Wings
Kielbasi
For the yard:
Hammock
Swing
Umbrella and Picnic Table
For the Deck:
New cushions for the chairs
Plant all the herbs
Strategically placed flower pots
For the Mental Vacation:
Margaritas
Sunrise Margaritas
Ice Cold Beer
Sweet Peach Tea Cocktails
Assorted Bellinis
Mimosas
CHECK...CHECK.....CHECK.....CHECK!
Bring on the Sunshine!
Wednesday, June 08, 2011
The Reveal
This is what it looked like when we bought the house
The FIRST makeover - 2007
This is the morning after the fire - still so grateful that no one was hurt.
Here it is! The TV is not hung yet, and we need a screeen for the fireplace, but you get the idea!
The FIRST makeover - 2007
This is the morning after the fire - still so grateful that no one was hurt.
Here it is! The TV is not hung yet, and we need a screeen for the fireplace, but you get the idea!
Tuesday, June 07, 2011
RAISING FUNDS!
As my little cousin, Edward, is fighting pediatric cancer, our family participated in a fund raiser to support research to help fight this deadly disease.
I love my cousins. I love how they did what they had to do to make this event a success. I love how over 20 cousins showed up to walk on a Sunday morning.
This event raised over $40,000 that morning. I am proud to say that the "Smiles For Edward" Team raised nearly $10,000.
Edward, Mr. Wonderful and Brandy
Lots of Cousins!!
TOP FUND RAISERS!
I love my cousins. I love how they did what they had to do to make this event a success. I love how over 20 cousins showed up to walk on a Sunday morning.
This event raised over $40,000 that morning. I am proud to say that the "Smiles For Edward" Team raised nearly $10,000.
Edward, Mr. Wonderful and Brandy
Lots of Cousins!!
TOP FUND RAISERS!
Monday, June 06, 2011
More babies = More blankets!
For "Isabella" - our great-great niece in Colorado
This one is for "Lucinda" in Michigan. This is where Brandy came from.
This one is for "Lucinda" in Michigan. This is where Brandy came from.
Thursday, June 02, 2011
"Roll Call"
Louie
Brandy
Sammy - (Bobby's Dog)
Sloane - (Allison's Dog)
Emma (Little Michael's dog), Sammy and Louie waiting for me to come home
Mr. Wonderful and his "entourage" sharing some frosted cheerios
ALL PRESENT AND ACCOUNTED FOR!!
Brandy
Sammy - (Bobby's Dog)
Sloane - (Allison's Dog)
Emma (Little Michael's dog), Sammy and Louie waiting for me to come home
Mr. Wonderful and his "entourage" sharing some frosted cheerios
ALL PRESENT AND ACCOUNTED FOR!!
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
5 months in
It has been nearly 5 months since "the fire". I am happy to say that the "re-build" is about 99% complete!! I will publish before and after pictures when everything is done.
The interior of the house has been completely washed.
Living room, Dining room, Kitchen, Hallway - all repainted
New fireplace - COMPLETE
Living room floor - REPAIRED and refinished
Downstairs bedroom: new walls, window, paint and floor is repaired.
Vinyl siding - COMPLETE
There is just some odds and ends that need to be finished.... not too bad.
We ordered new couches for the living room about 3 weeks ago. They will be ready in September - FOR REAL!! - LOL!!! It's just as well, Mr. Wonderful has been shopping for a new TV for the living room for the past 2 months and he has STILL not found anything to his liking.
I hung the old "silhouettes" in the bay window - (still waiting for the new ones to arrive) - Brandy has been enjoying standing on that windowsill perusing the neighborhood. Time to break her of THAT habit!!
Slowly, but surely, the home office is being emptied and things are finding their way home.
I am happy to have my dining room and kitchen back. Let the entertaining begin!! We don't really need the living room until the Winter!
The interior of the house has been completely washed.
Living room, Dining room, Kitchen, Hallway - all repainted
New fireplace - COMPLETE
Living room floor - REPAIRED and refinished
Downstairs bedroom: new walls, window, paint and floor is repaired.
Vinyl siding - COMPLETE
There is just some odds and ends that need to be finished.... not too bad.
We ordered new couches for the living room about 3 weeks ago. They will be ready in September - FOR REAL!! - LOL!!! It's just as well, Mr. Wonderful has been shopping for a new TV for the living room for the past 2 months and he has STILL not found anything to his liking.
I hung the old "silhouettes" in the bay window - (still waiting for the new ones to arrive) - Brandy has been enjoying standing on that windowsill perusing the neighborhood. Time to break her of THAT habit!!
Slowly, but surely, the home office is being emptied and things are finding their way home.
I am happy to have my dining room and kitchen back. Let the entertaining begin!! We don't really need the living room until the Winter!
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Mr. Wonderful, The Fisherman
Mr. W and I have been together for 35 years - married for nearly 34. He has MANY wonderful characteristics, and a few minor flaws - (and I am entirely grateful that I can say (a "few").
I am not sure if it was my 12 years of Catholic School or a very strict mother who would impose severe consequences if I was even one minute late - but I am ALWAYS on time for whatever I have to do. In fact, I am usually early. I plan ahead and always consider all factors that may make me late and leave enough time to get where I am going in ample time. Mr. Wonderful..... well.... the man has no sense of time!!
I have learned to tell him that we have to leave 30 minutes before we actually do. Inevitably, we leave 15 minutes late - OR MORE! It is the one crazy-ass habit of his that I cannot seem to break. Just this past week, we had a funeral in Brooklyn - the stress involved in getting that man out of the house was just mind-boggling! On Sunday, we had a Christening in New Jersey. We were doing well on the time, until we had some choice words in the kitchen prior to leaving the house. He was making himself a cup of coffee "to go". I reminded him that he has never successfully drank coffee while driving without spilling some on his shirt. I mentioned how cranky he would be if he spilled something on his brand new white shirt that took me 20 minutes to iron. He assured me that he had it all under control and off we went. SO.... I could not help but giggle to myself when he did indeed spill coffee on that pristine white shirt..... Then I started to squirm as he pulled in to the parking lot of a 7-11 in search of a "Tide Pen", only to emerge with a bottle of seltzer. Again, it was hard not to giggle as I watched him desperately try to clean away that stain - THEN I SAW THE CLOCK!!! Sometimes I swear he does these thngs intentionally just to make me crazy. SO, the man drove like a maniac and we made it to New Jersey in plenty of time.
Those of you who know Mr. Wonderful, know that he is (was) an avid fisherman. Over 3 months ago, he and his friend planned a charter for striped bass. He had to leave the house this morning by 4:10am. It will never cease to amaze me how he made it out the door by 4:00 without any prodding from me....
I am not sure if it was my 12 years of Catholic School or a very strict mother who would impose severe consequences if I was even one minute late - but I am ALWAYS on time for whatever I have to do. In fact, I am usually early. I plan ahead and always consider all factors that may make me late and leave enough time to get where I am going in ample time. Mr. Wonderful..... well.... the man has no sense of time!!
I have learned to tell him that we have to leave 30 minutes before we actually do. Inevitably, we leave 15 minutes late - OR MORE! It is the one crazy-ass habit of his that I cannot seem to break. Just this past week, we had a funeral in Brooklyn - the stress involved in getting that man out of the house was just mind-boggling! On Sunday, we had a Christening in New Jersey. We were doing well on the time, until we had some choice words in the kitchen prior to leaving the house. He was making himself a cup of coffee "to go". I reminded him that he has never successfully drank coffee while driving without spilling some on his shirt. I mentioned how cranky he would be if he spilled something on his brand new white shirt that took me 20 minutes to iron. He assured me that he had it all under control and off we went. SO.... I could not help but giggle to myself when he did indeed spill coffee on that pristine white shirt..... Then I started to squirm as he pulled in to the parking lot of a 7-11 in search of a "Tide Pen", only to emerge with a bottle of seltzer. Again, it was hard not to giggle as I watched him desperately try to clean away that stain - THEN I SAW THE CLOCK!!! Sometimes I swear he does these thngs intentionally just to make me crazy. SO, the man drove like a maniac and we made it to New Jersey in plenty of time.
Those of you who know Mr. Wonderful, know that he is (was) an avid fisherman. Over 3 months ago, he and his friend planned a charter for striped bass. He had to leave the house this morning by 4:10am. It will never cease to amaze me how he made it out the door by 4:00 without any prodding from me....
Thursday, May 05, 2011
Guga to Many!
First, I make the blanket.
Then I see a picture of it in the nursery - awaiting the birth of the baby
At last, Clara has arrived. Look at the proud big sisters!!
So happy to have these children in my heart!
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Easter? Already??
It is mind boggling to me that Easter is upon us - Wasn't it just Christmas??? I guess having the house in disarray for so long has just interfered with my internal calendar!
Clearly, my house is not ready for entertaining, so my mother has graciously offered to take the family out to dinner on Easter Sunday. I wonder if the restaurant staff is ready for our family?
Are they going to be amenable to each one of us venturing into the kitchen and lifting the pot lids? Will they let us drink our "before dinner" cocktails in the kitchen while we nibble on little goodies that the chef leaves on the counter? Do you think they will mind if we ask questions such as, "Is that fresh oregano or dried?" "Did you slice the garlic or use the microplane?" .... inquiring minds want to know.
Secretly, I hope we are all restricted to the diningroom! I would hate it if everyone preferred going out to dinner in a restaurant rather than mulling around my house from morning to evening on any given holiday!
I had better start working on the menu for Mother's Day!@!@#!%@#^%
Clearly, my house is not ready for entertaining, so my mother has graciously offered to take the family out to dinner on Easter Sunday. I wonder if the restaurant staff is ready for our family?
Are they going to be amenable to each one of us venturing into the kitchen and lifting the pot lids? Will they let us drink our "before dinner" cocktails in the kitchen while we nibble on little goodies that the chef leaves on the counter? Do you think they will mind if we ask questions such as, "Is that fresh oregano or dried?" "Did you slice the garlic or use the microplane?" .... inquiring minds want to know.
Secretly, I hope we are all restricted to the diningroom! I would hate it if everyone preferred going out to dinner in a restaurant rather than mulling around my house from morning to evening on any given holiday!
I had better start working on the menu for Mother's Day!@!@#!%@#^%
Thursday, April 14, 2011
The Re-Build
I refuse to refer to this as "construction" any longer. The fire was January 9 - Here it is, 3 months later, and we are still living in what could be deemed as a "bomb shelter" in most war torn countries!
I thought of posting some pictures... but I looked at the pictures - and they just do not depict the misery we have been dealing with. Picture a GIANT BUBBLE (not unlike the one the infamous "bubble-boy" lived in) - this is what half my house has looked like for the past 3 months! They "hermetically" sealed off the livingroom from the rest of the house. The diningroom was filled with the items that used to be in the livingroom. Thus leaving the kitchen, bedroom, the office and bathrooms as the only usable portions of the house. Mr. Wonderful and I have eaten over 150 meals on our bed.
In all fairness, it seems we have finally reached the last stages of this "re-build". After much discussion (read that: I just nodded my head to whatever Mr. Wonderful wanted because I really had no energy left for viable input), a new fireplace design was born. It is nearly completed.
Then we had to prepare for the painters - Mr. W asked me if I wanted to change the color, I told him I would rather not and he agreed. So the painters arrived. Imagine my surprise when I came home to find my kitchen a different color. Not to mention that my livingroom, diningroom and hallway also a shade deeper as well!
Today, we are moving to a hotel for a couple days. The "re-build-ers" are coming to refinish all the wood floors. Mr. Wonderful helped prepare for this by putting anything he could carry by himself into our home office.
(kindly hum the theme song to "Sanford and Son" as you view this picture)
Last night we dropped off Brandy and Sammy at boarding school. Gladly, they are rooming together and they will return on Monday. The little dogs will be treated to a trip to the hotel with their perspective owners. Bind Cat is also coming with us as Mr. Wonderful cannot bring himself to leave him home with the other cats.
I wonder if Mr. Wonderful thinks that this is going to take the place of my "island vacation" that we missed in January due to this fire????
I thought of posting some pictures... but I looked at the pictures - and they just do not depict the misery we have been dealing with. Picture a GIANT BUBBLE (not unlike the one the infamous "bubble-boy" lived in) - this is what half my house has looked like for the past 3 months! They "hermetically" sealed off the livingroom from the rest of the house. The diningroom was filled with the items that used to be in the livingroom. Thus leaving the kitchen, bedroom, the office and bathrooms as the only usable portions of the house. Mr. Wonderful and I have eaten over 150 meals on our bed.
In all fairness, it seems we have finally reached the last stages of this "re-build". After much discussion (read that: I just nodded my head to whatever Mr. Wonderful wanted because I really had no energy left for viable input), a new fireplace design was born. It is nearly completed.
Then we had to prepare for the painters - Mr. W asked me if I wanted to change the color, I told him I would rather not and he agreed. So the painters arrived. Imagine my surprise when I came home to find my kitchen a different color. Not to mention that my livingroom, diningroom and hallway also a shade deeper as well!
Today, we are moving to a hotel for a couple days. The "re-build-ers" are coming to refinish all the wood floors. Mr. Wonderful helped prepare for this by putting anything he could carry by himself into our home office.
(kindly hum the theme song to "Sanford and Son" as you view this picture)Last night we dropped off Brandy and Sammy at boarding school. Gladly, they are rooming together and they will return on Monday. The little dogs will be treated to a trip to the hotel with their perspective owners. Bind Cat is also coming with us as Mr. Wonderful cannot bring himself to leave him home with the other cats.
I wonder if Mr. Wonderful thinks that this is going to take the place of my "island vacation" that we missed in January due to this fire????
Thursday, March 31, 2011
GO WEST AND CONQUER!
I recently returned from a trip to Colorado to help out our nephew. Jon is fighting cancer (melanoma on top of his head). He had gone through two long bouts of chemo and he was ready for his first surgery. I made the trip out there to take care of Jon and his son Nicholas. I am happy to say that the surgery was a success in that the doctors feel they have removed the melanoma in its entirety and all the lymph nodes in his neck as well.
It was an interesting and memorable 5 days. It was my goal to get Jon back on his feet and keep his spirits optimistic after this surgery. He will be facing some reconstructive surgery for his head and 2 more bouts of chemo.
One of my favorite memories is when I was washing Jon's hair. He could not take a shower because of the drain in his neck (ok, admittedly he was a little Frankenstein-ish - but I do not have a weak stomach!) Jon's hair was caked with dried blood and it was driving him crazy. Now - how exaclty does a 5'2" little Italian Aunt wash the hair of her 6'4" nephew?? - PICTURE THIS: Jon laying across the kitchen counters with his head nestled in my hands over the kitchen sink - THAT'S HOW!! I will never forget how he looked at me and thanked me over and over for doing this for him....
I was also able to spend some quality time with my Great-Nephew, Nicholas. He is not quite 8 yrs. old and he just touched my heart.... I loved how he called me "Aunt Angela" the whole time! Since I got lost on my first solo trip to the grocery store, I took Nicholas with me on the second trip. I offered to pay him to get me there and back safely - AND HE DID!!
I loved cooking and fussing over my two nephews - clearly, this was something neither was used to - and they were both so grateful.
I know Jon was so thankful that I was there.... I wonder if he realizes how wonderful it made me feel to do this for them???
It was an interesting and memorable 5 days. It was my goal to get Jon back on his feet and keep his spirits optimistic after this surgery. He will be facing some reconstructive surgery for his head and 2 more bouts of chemo.
One of my favorite memories is when I was washing Jon's hair. He could not take a shower because of the drain in his neck (ok, admittedly he was a little Frankenstein-ish - but I do not have a weak stomach!) Jon's hair was caked with dried blood and it was driving him crazy. Now - how exaclty does a 5'2" little Italian Aunt wash the hair of her 6'4" nephew?? - PICTURE THIS: Jon laying across the kitchen counters with his head nestled in my hands over the kitchen sink - THAT'S HOW!! I will never forget how he looked at me and thanked me over and over for doing this for him....
I was also able to spend some quality time with my Great-Nephew, Nicholas. He is not quite 8 yrs. old and he just touched my heart.... I loved how he called me "Aunt Angela" the whole time! Since I got lost on my first solo trip to the grocery store, I took Nicholas with me on the second trip. I offered to pay him to get me there and back safely - AND HE DID!!
I loved cooking and fussing over my two nephews - clearly, this was something neither was used to - and they were both so grateful.
I know Jon was so thankful that I was there.... I wonder if he realizes how wonderful it made me feel to do this for them???
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Uncle Al
Everyone has a special Uncle - Mine is Uncle Al. At age 95(ish), he is now in the hospital suffering the effects of a couple strokes. It is so sad to see that this is the way he is spending the last stage of his life.
Uncle Al lives his life with no rules - except these few: In the Winter you drink Rye. Always red wine with dinner. In the summer, beer with lunch, then gin and tonic with a piece of FRESH LIME!
Everyone has some fond memory of Uncle Al - but I think he will most be remembered for his crazy expressions. Just to name a few:
Ball 4, Take a walk
In the name of the Father, and of the Son, over the fence is a home run
There are flowers on the wall
Hey kid, you look like Gina Lollabrigida - walking backwards
What a "maroon"
Wrong Way Corrigan
Rube Goldberg
I'll drink to that!
TO THE MOON!!
What's up, doc?
MY NERVES!!!
Win, Place and Show
Your Raspberry Pie
Next Case, 30 Days
Jesus, Mary, and Joseph - and the Holy Ghost ran 4th
Frick and Frack
Flip and Flop
I've seen better heads on stale beer
Nicknames for people: Zelda, Mabel, Zeek, Horizontal, Pain-in-the-ass
When we were kids, he used to make huge "bonfires" in his back yard and give us each twigs to roast marshmallows.... He could curse like a sailor, but always excused himself by following up with a loud "OOPS" after the profanity left his mouth. He was different.... he was ours.
Uncle Al lives his life with no rules - except these few: In the Winter you drink Rye. Always red wine with dinner. In the summer, beer with lunch, then gin and tonic with a piece of FRESH LIME!
Everyone has some fond memory of Uncle Al - but I think he will most be remembered for his crazy expressions. Just to name a few:
Ball 4, Take a walk
In the name of the Father, and of the Son, over the fence is a home run
There are flowers on the wall
Hey kid, you look like Gina Lollabrigida - walking backwards
What a "maroon"
Wrong Way Corrigan
Rube Goldberg
I'll drink to that!
TO THE MOON!!
What's up, doc?
MY NERVES!!!
Win, Place and Show
Your Raspberry Pie
Next Case, 30 Days
Jesus, Mary, and Joseph - and the Holy Ghost ran 4th
Frick and Frack
Flip and Flop
I've seen better heads on stale beer
Nicknames for people: Zelda, Mabel, Zeek, Horizontal, Pain-in-the-ass
When we were kids, he used to make huge "bonfires" in his back yard and give us each twigs to roast marshmallows.... He could curse like a sailor, but always excused himself by following up with a loud "OOPS" after the profanity left his mouth. He was different.... he was ours.
Wednesday, March 09, 2011
quick update
Contractors have finally begun the reconstruction process (it's been 2 months since the fire). Will post before and after pix when it is complete.
I have come to realize that Mr. Wonderful and I can exist with just a kitchen, bathroom and bedroom - AND we are sharing that bedroom with 2 cats and 4 dogs most of the time. This is actually good news.... I had been worried about scaling down to a smaller house when I retire. Apparently, a 3 room apartment will more than suffice!!
All the kids have been busy on their own private quests:
Allison is getting her restaurant in tip top shape
Bobby is working hard and saving money
Michelle is waiting to hear about the mortgage they applied for
Little Michael is attempting to figure out his next step
Tricia is busy raising my beautiful granddaughters
As Robert Frost so profoundly said, "In three words I can sum up everything I have learned about life: IT GOES ON"...
I have come to realize that Mr. Wonderful and I can exist with just a kitchen, bathroom and bedroom - AND we are sharing that bedroom with 2 cats and 4 dogs most of the time. This is actually good news.... I had been worried about scaling down to a smaller house when I retire. Apparently, a 3 room apartment will more than suffice!!
All the kids have been busy on their own private quests:
Allison is getting her restaurant in tip top shape
Bobby is working hard and saving money
Michelle is waiting to hear about the mortgage they applied for
Little Michael is attempting to figure out his next step
Tricia is busy raising my beautiful granddaughters
As Robert Frost so profoundly said, "In three words I can sum up everything I have learned about life: IT GOES ON"...
Monday, February 21, 2011
Baby Boom?
It seems 2011 will prove to be a "baby boom" - at least in my little corner of the world. Below are pictures of baby blankets I finished so far this year. If it is true when they say, "Idle hands are a devil's workshop" - then Satan should be staying far away from me!!
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
What's for dinner?
So Bobby calls me Sunday morning and says, "So Ma, wanna come here today?" - Who could turn down such a heartfelt invitation??? I said, "Sure, I'll bring dinner".
Mr. W. and I left our house 3 hours later carrying:
- a stack of automotive magazines that Mr. W wanted to share with his son
- a stack of mail for the kid who has not changed his address in a year
- a tray of freshly baked chocolate chip cookies
- a tray of piping hot chicken cacciatore
Awaiting us at Bobby's house:
- Suse
- a platter of fresh bread
- fresh mozzarella
- imported Portugese Cheese
- roasting Portugese sausage
- a good bottle of red wine
- freshly brewed pot of coffee for Mr. W.
A combined effort.... a perfect day.
Mr. W. and I left our house 3 hours later carrying:
- a stack of automotive magazines that Mr. W wanted to share with his son
- a stack of mail for the kid who has not changed his address in a year
- a tray of freshly baked chocolate chip cookies
- a tray of piping hot chicken cacciatore
Awaiting us at Bobby's house:
- Suse
- a platter of fresh bread
- fresh mozzarella
- imported Portugese Cheese
- roasting Portugese sausage
- a good bottle of red wine
- freshly brewed pot of coffee for Mr. W.
A combined effort.... a perfect day.
Tuesday, February 08, 2011
Storchevoy Sunday
I have long started this tradition of the kids knowing that Sunday dinner was always going to be at our house. I figured, if I wanted them to bring my future grandchildren, I better start planting the seed early.
I love our Sundays. It's like having a little holiday each week. There always seems to be something to celebrate - a birthday, a new haircut, a new pair of shoes - you get the idea. I feel that it is a parent's responsibility to instill the importance of family.
I am sure I can think of 100 things I would rather do on a Sunday other than cook a big meal.... well, maybe I can think of 50 things....10 things? Let's face it - there is NOTHING in this world I would rather do on a Sunday than cook a meal that will bring all my children together at my table.
Things have been somewhat difficult since the fire. I am proud to say that one Sunday, Allison hosted "Storchevoy Sunday" at her restaurant. And Michelle hosted it at her house one Sunday also. I am so happy that my kids also feel the need to see each other on Sundays!
Tuesday, February 01, 2011
My Angels
"I carry your hearts with me. I carry them in my heart."
May God forever bless my angels.
Ally - 9 yrs. old
Ava - 4 1/2 yrs. old
UPS Delivers!
As many of you know, my cousin's 10 yr. old son was recently diagnosed with a rare form of bone cancer. Cancer is a scary word - no one ever wants to hear it, but all too often, we hear it in a "too close proximity" to our hearts.
In an effort to comfort my cousin as his son faced the first step in his treatment (a huge surgery), I decided to send him something special. My Dad was my cousin's Godfather. My cousin has asked me, on more than one occasion, for my Dad's "custom" rosary beads. (My Dad, in his infinite wisdom, had shortened his rosary beads thinking it would be more efficient for him to say his prayers.) I carried these rosary beads with me daily since my Dad died. I thought the time was right for me to send these to my cousin..
I wrote a heartfelt note and sent the rosary beads UPS RED for delivery the next morning to my cousin's house. They were to be delivered by 8:30AM. Well, when the package did not arrive by noon, I started making calls. They assured me the package was on the truck and would be delivered that day. Happy to say, the envelope finally made it to my cousin's house at 6:00pm that evening. The envelope was ripped in half and re-taped closed. The letter was enclosed, but NO rosary beads.
I was furious, to say the least! I called UPS and spoke to a lovely supervisor and explained the whole situation. She was entirely sympathetic and assured me that she would do all she could to find the rosary beads.
My cousin was just so sad that there was a possiblity that my Dad's rosary beads were going to be lost forever. I assured him that this was a great story and my father LOVED a good story.... There was nothing to fret over...
My UPS ladies called me every single day to tell me what they were doing to try to find the rosary beads - but most of all, they wanted daily updates as to how my little cousin fared after his surgery.
I am happy to say that the tireless efforts of these ladies paid off as they did indeed find the rosary beads and delivered them to my cousin's house - 4 days later!! I wonder where those rosary beads spent those 4 days... Do you think my Dad was involved?
In an effort to comfort my cousin as his son faced the first step in his treatment (a huge surgery), I decided to send him something special. My Dad was my cousin's Godfather. My cousin has asked me, on more than one occasion, for my Dad's "custom" rosary beads. (My Dad, in his infinite wisdom, had shortened his rosary beads thinking it would be more efficient for him to say his prayers.) I carried these rosary beads with me daily since my Dad died. I thought the time was right for me to send these to my cousin..
I wrote a heartfelt note and sent the rosary beads UPS RED for delivery the next morning to my cousin's house. They were to be delivered by 8:30AM. Well, when the package did not arrive by noon, I started making calls. They assured me the package was on the truck and would be delivered that day. Happy to say, the envelope finally made it to my cousin's house at 6:00pm that evening. The envelope was ripped in half and re-taped closed. The letter was enclosed, but NO rosary beads.
I was furious, to say the least! I called UPS and spoke to a lovely supervisor and explained the whole situation. She was entirely sympathetic and assured me that she would do all she could to find the rosary beads.
My cousin was just so sad that there was a possiblity that my Dad's rosary beads were going to be lost forever. I assured him that this was a great story and my father LOVED a good story.... There was nothing to fret over...
My UPS ladies called me every single day to tell me what they were doing to try to find the rosary beads - but most of all, they wanted daily updates as to how my little cousin fared after his surgery.
I am happy to say that the tireless efforts of these ladies paid off as they did indeed find the rosary beads and delivered them to my cousin's house - 4 days later!! I wonder where those rosary beads spent those 4 days... Do you think my Dad was involved?
Monday, January 24, 2011
Our Blessing
As most of my faithful readers know - we had a house fire 2 weeks ago. Yes, there is damage. Yes, it was frightening. Yes, we are SO lucky as it could have been so much worse.
As I think of the events NOW, there are several little incidents that come to mind:
1. Mr. Wonderful refusing to come to bed as he "sensed" something was not right as he stared at the glowing embers in the fireplace. I can recall being aggravated that he was being totally paranoid. - So glad to say I WAS WRONG (hey, it was bound to happen after 34 years!)
2. Mr. W. being SO calm as he rounded up all the animals and bellowing at the top of his voice for me to GET OUT OF THE HOUSE - all at the same time. (First time ever that he multi-tasked)
3. Little Michael suggesting that they remove the 8 foot mirror that was attached to the wall next to the fireplace - (smart move, kiddo!)
4. Me, standing in my bedroom, gazing at its contents, wondering what I should take with me - (I grabbed Louie and my pocketbook - in that order)
5. The hoarde of volunteer firemen that appeared in front of my house - just happy to do their job. The two police officers who helped find the last cat that was scared and hiding. Virtual strangers who came to our aid - I am forever grateful.
6. The outpouring of love and support from our friends and neighbors. The reassurance and offering of lodging for us and our animals was overwhelming. I will always remember the warmth and kindness we were shown.
As I tell the story, over and over, I find myself reassuring others that we are okay, and this is just an "inconvenience". As I write this now, I realize that this was so much more.... It was a miracle that our house was not consumed in a full blaze (the fire marshall said we had approximately 6 more minutes before that happened). From now on, I will refer to this as an example of God's handiwork. God was watching over us, cradling us in His hands.
As I think of the events NOW, there are several little incidents that come to mind:
1. Mr. Wonderful refusing to come to bed as he "sensed" something was not right as he stared at the glowing embers in the fireplace. I can recall being aggravated that he was being totally paranoid. - So glad to say I WAS WRONG (hey, it was bound to happen after 34 years!)
2. Mr. W. being SO calm as he rounded up all the animals and bellowing at the top of his voice for me to GET OUT OF THE HOUSE - all at the same time. (First time ever that he multi-tasked)
3. Little Michael suggesting that they remove the 8 foot mirror that was attached to the wall next to the fireplace - (smart move, kiddo!)
4. Me, standing in my bedroom, gazing at its contents, wondering what I should take with me - (I grabbed Louie and my pocketbook - in that order)
5. The hoarde of volunteer firemen that appeared in front of my house - just happy to do their job. The two police officers who helped find the last cat that was scared and hiding. Virtual strangers who came to our aid - I am forever grateful.
6. The outpouring of love and support from our friends and neighbors. The reassurance and offering of lodging for us and our animals was overwhelming. I will always remember the warmth and kindness we were shown.
As I tell the story, over and over, I find myself reassuring others that we are okay, and this is just an "inconvenience". As I write this now, I realize that this was so much more.... It was a miracle that our house was not consumed in a full blaze (the fire marshall said we had approximately 6 more minutes before that happened). From now on, I will refer to this as an example of God's handiwork. God was watching over us, cradling us in His hands.
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Now THIS is Christmas!
The "Tree" arrives - thank you, Bobby
The "Tree" is up - thank you, Bobby
The "Tree" is nearly decorated - until Mr. Wonderful eyes something interesting on TV
The "Tree" is complete - thank you, Mr. Wonderful
All we needed was a "Christmas Miracle"
Christmas Eve:
Allison brought my sister to me for Christmas!
Christmas Day:
Congratulations to my Allison - she is now the proud owner of Outback Restaurant in Lindenhurst (9 miles from our house!) She knows how to pull off a surprise!! She told me that she is AMAZING - she said, "I think I am 'Amazing Grace' - How sweet my sound!" - She obviously does not have self-esteem issues!!
As Allison said all day long..... "It's a Christmas Miracle - God Bless us each and everyone!"
The "Tree" is up - thank you, Bobby
The "Tree" is nearly decorated - until Mr. Wonderful eyes something interesting on TV
The "Tree" is complete - thank you, Mr. Wonderful
All we needed was a "Christmas Miracle"
Christmas Eve:
Allison brought my sister to me for Christmas!
Christmas Day:
Congratulations to my Allison - she is now the proud owner of Outback Restaurant in Lindenhurst (9 miles from our house!) She knows how to pull off a surprise!! She told me that she is AMAZING - she said, "I think I am 'Amazing Grace' - How sweet my sound!" - She obviously does not have self-esteem issues!!
As Allison said all day long..... "It's a Christmas Miracle - God Bless us each and everyone!"
Friday, December 10, 2010
To Tree, or Not To Tree?
So last weekend I tell Mr. Wonderful that I do not want to put up a tree this year. He went all "postal" on me giving me 100 reasons why we had to put one up. Seriously, I was not even listening to him, I was just nodding... thinking about the whole shopping experience. Having to go after work one evening... freezing temps... him searching through all the trees to find the BEST tree on the lot... blah, blah blah... I resigned myself to the fact that this was going to happen no matter what.
Despite the rocky beginning, I was bound and determined to enjoy my day. The kids were coming for dinner and we were going to relax and watch some football.
Bobby and Suse came waltzing through the front door and Bobby opens the blinds on the front window. "Come here, Ma. Look, I decorated my car for Christmas!"
Yes, he bought us a tree. He said that he figured we had not shopped for one yet and he thought he would make it a little easier for us.
So, it seems we are moving in slow motion this year.....but at least we are headed in the right direction.
Despite the rocky beginning, I was bound and determined to enjoy my day. The kids were coming for dinner and we were going to relax and watch some football.
Bobby and Suse came waltzing through the front door and Bobby opens the blinds on the front window. "Come here, Ma. Look, I decorated my car for Christmas!"
Yes, he bought us a tree. He said that he figured we had not shopped for one yet and he thought he would make it a little easier for us.
So, it seems we are moving in slow motion this year.....but at least we are headed in the right direction.
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
Christmas on the Horizon
So we made it through Thanksgiving. The usual crowd - with one exception. Our nephew from Colorado came out to spend the week with us and bond with his cousins. It was very special to have Jon at our table this year. This is the first time he has ever spent a holiday with us. I think we certainly paved the way for him to come out more often.
As we finish up the last of the leftovers, I am trying to make a mental list of what is next on the agenda:
1. TREE - I'm not gonna lie - I am SO dreading putting up a 7 foot live Christmas Tree with "Brandy" (read that: 75 pound mini-stallion) running through the house.
2. Shopping - SERIOUSLY? hmmmm, Bonds, gift cards, checks - DONE!
3. Baking - This MIGHT happen
4. Decorating Outdoors - I'm thinking a Menorah in the window - really now, who would know the difference?
5. Holly Jolly Attitude - I believe I left it in Key West.
6. Plan the Christmas Dinner - now THIS, I am good at! (Homemade manicotti is on the top of the list!)
7. Clean it all up in anticipation of our Annual January Vacation to a tropical island with cousins and friends.
I think I'll start at the bottom and work my way UP the list!
As we finish up the last of the leftovers, I am trying to make a mental list of what is next on the agenda:
1. TREE - I'm not gonna lie - I am SO dreading putting up a 7 foot live Christmas Tree with "Brandy" (read that: 75 pound mini-stallion) running through the house.
2. Shopping - SERIOUSLY? hmmmm, Bonds, gift cards, checks - DONE!
3. Baking - This MIGHT happen
4. Decorating Outdoors - I'm thinking a Menorah in the window - really now, who would know the difference?
5. Holly Jolly Attitude - I believe I left it in Key West.
6. Plan the Christmas Dinner - now THIS, I am good at! (Homemade manicotti is on the top of the list!)
7. Clean it all up in anticipation of our Annual January Vacation to a tropical island with cousins and friends.
I think I'll start at the bottom and work my way UP the list!
Tuesday, November 09, 2010
The Cousins
There were 13 First Cousins. Cousin Paulie died in Viet Nam. That left 12.
2 in Florida
1 in California
1 in Illinois
6 in New Jersey
2 on Long Island
Happy to say we came together for a glorious occasion. It is always fun when a "second generation" cousin gets married! There were 6 of us present. Should have taken the picture earlier in the evening when the guys were still "dressed".
Looking forward to the day when the 12 of us can be together.... Hope it is not for a funeral...
Monday, November 01, 2010
OUCH!!!
What a beautiful Fall weekend!! I had a long list of errands/chores to accomplish and I started very early Saturday morning (while Mr. W. slept).
Breakfast with old friend - DONE
Manicure - DONE
Food Shopping - DONE
Time to wake up Sleeping Beauty (aka Mr. W).
Laundry - Started
Wake up Sleeping Beauty again (not so much Mr. W by this time)
Laundry - Finished
And we (Mr. W and I) are off to do some shopping. Having a wonderful time shopping when all of a sudden - my right ankle gives out!! OH NO!! Of course he wants to call an ambulance - of course I am yelling I AM FINE - GET ME THE HELL OUT OF HERE!!
So Saturday night and all day Sunday I sat in my recliner, foot elevated and ice pack firmly in place. No, I did not go for an X-Ray. No, I do not think I broke anything. I am SO prone to spraining my ankles that I have an air cast on hand "just in case"!!
So here I am today, in my office, at my desk, foot in an air cast, elevated on the garbage pail. I have taken my share of Advil for the day. It is better today....
I am just wondering how I am going to put on my high heels Friday night.... My little cousin is getting married and I am NOT sitting in a chair for 6 hours... I will be on the dance floor AND icing my ankle from the "inside out".... starting with the cocktail hour!!
Breakfast with old friend - DONE
Manicure - DONE
Food Shopping - DONE
Time to wake up Sleeping Beauty (aka Mr. W).
Laundry - Started
Wake up Sleeping Beauty again (not so much Mr. W by this time)
Laundry - Finished
And we (Mr. W and I) are off to do some shopping. Having a wonderful time shopping when all of a sudden - my right ankle gives out!! OH NO!! Of course he wants to call an ambulance - of course I am yelling I AM FINE - GET ME THE HELL OUT OF HERE!!
So Saturday night and all day Sunday I sat in my recliner, foot elevated and ice pack firmly in place. No, I did not go for an X-Ray. No, I do not think I broke anything. I am SO prone to spraining my ankles that I have an air cast on hand "just in case"!!
So here I am today, in my office, at my desk, foot in an air cast, elevated on the garbage pail. I have taken my share of Advil for the day. It is better today....
I am just wondering how I am going to put on my high heels Friday night.... My little cousin is getting married and I am NOT sitting in a chair for 6 hours... I will be on the dance floor AND icing my ankle from the "inside out".... starting with the cocktail hour!!
Monday, October 25, 2010
The Fake Wake
I have a great Italian Family. We LOVE to laugh. When my grandmother was alive, we all gathered at her Brooklyn house on Sundays to be together. There was no dishwasher or matching plates - there was just plenty of food, drinks and laughter. Us cousins were more like brothers and sisters.
When Grandma died, so did a part of our Sunday tradition. Yes, we saw each other, just not as often. As years went on, it seemed that every year one of us got married - and we all got to see each other again. A couple of us even hosted the family for different occasions. After a while, we started to only see each other at funerals.
Well, we had the opportunity to gather once again a week ago to pay tribute to our dear uncle, Zi Vidooch. He was a favorite uncle to many of us. We all had notice of his impending demise and made a date to meet at a fabulous restaurant in Brooklyn and share some great memories of him. We also learned of some secrets (he had been carrying on an affair with a married woman for years!!!) There were 12 of us who traveled from New Jersey and Eastern Long Island, just to share a meal and loving thoughts. It was so nice to see how everyone did something nice in honor of Zi:
Thank you, Kathy: You brought prayer cards for all of us and helped to eternal-ize his memory.
Thank you, Lou: You brought a treasured photo of all of Zi's sisters in Italy. It was good to see them all.
Thank you, Justina: You took all the photos that night and posted them on facebook as a lasting tribute to Zi.
Thank you, Joan: for "blowing Zi" a final kiss good-by for all of us to witness. (Seriously, Joan? I am not sure how you had the nerve to show up after cheating on Frank all these years with Zi!)
and most of all - THANK YOU, PAUL!! You were so conscientious to send out emails detailing the final days of Zi's life. You made reservations at the perfect restaurant. You brought proof positive of Joan's affair with Zi - as they say, "a picture is worth a thousand words". And most importantly, you brought Zi's ashes so we could all witness Joan's final good-bye to her beloved!
I am so happy to be part of a family who will go to so much trouble as to host a "fake wake" just so we could all be together. I am also thrilled that all of our children are reaching the "marriage" age and we will once again have the opportunity to see eachother for happy occasions.
When Grandma died, so did a part of our Sunday tradition. Yes, we saw each other, just not as often. As years went on, it seemed that every year one of us got married - and we all got to see each other again. A couple of us even hosted the family for different occasions. After a while, we started to only see each other at funerals.
Well, we had the opportunity to gather once again a week ago to pay tribute to our dear uncle, Zi Vidooch. He was a favorite uncle to many of us. We all had notice of his impending demise and made a date to meet at a fabulous restaurant in Brooklyn and share some great memories of him. We also learned of some secrets (he had been carrying on an affair with a married woman for years!!!) There were 12 of us who traveled from New Jersey and Eastern Long Island, just to share a meal and loving thoughts. It was so nice to see how everyone did something nice in honor of Zi:
Thank you, Kathy: You brought prayer cards for all of us and helped to eternal-ize his memory.
Thank you, Lou: You brought a treasured photo of all of Zi's sisters in Italy. It was good to see them all.
Thank you, Justina: You took all the photos that night and posted them on facebook as a lasting tribute to Zi.
Thank you, Joan: for "blowing Zi" a final kiss good-by for all of us to witness. (Seriously, Joan? I am not sure how you had the nerve to show up after cheating on Frank all these years with Zi!)
and most of all - THANK YOU, PAUL!! You were so conscientious to send out emails detailing the final days of Zi's life. You made reservations at the perfect restaurant. You brought proof positive of Joan's affair with Zi - as they say, "a picture is worth a thousand words". And most importantly, you brought Zi's ashes so we could all witness Joan's final good-bye to her beloved!
I am so happy to be part of a family who will go to so much trouble as to host a "fake wake" just so we could all be together. I am also thrilled that all of our children are reaching the "marriage" age and we will once again have the opportunity to see eachother for happy occasions.
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
A tip for mothers
Profound quote from a friend on "mothering":
"You know we give these kids life with the help from God and we want them to be safe. We want to love them and take care of them. When they seem almost impossible, we know that we have to let go again and let God do his work.
Thanks, Joan, for putting it back in perspective.
"You know we give these kids life with the help from God and we want them to be safe. We want to love them and take care of them. When they seem almost impossible, we know that we have to let go again and let God do his work.
Thanks, Joan, for putting it back in perspective.
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
My Gift from Key West
Allison: 
I am not going to tell you what a wonderful time we all had - that's a given!
I am not going to report that this was the best year EVER - we say that every year.
I am not going to say that there is no vacation like a "girls' vacation - if you have never done it, you would not understand; and if you have, you know it is the truth!
I AM going to tell you what I learned on this trip. I learned that my daughter, Allison, is a very special person. She was always wonderful in my eyes, but this trip afforded me the opportunity to see her and get to know her through other people's eyes.
I was coming down to see Allison with friends and family in tow. Yes, she knew all these people - but I know, in my heart, everything she did - she did for me. She worked as many hours as she had to, in order to be able to spend my entire vacation with us. She and her wonderful roommates (Crafty and Chad) went from store to store shopping and preparing before we got there. She and Crafty picked us all up at the airport in grand style and brought us to the house we rented. The house was fully stocked with: prepared food and snacks, assorted cocktail fixings and the A/C running full blast!
During the course of the next few days, we met and socialized with MANY of Allison's friends. These people ran the gamut: men/women, single/married, gay/straight, Americans/Foreigners, and even little children comprised this group. It was the most interesting 5 days of my life! The laughter and camaraderie was overwhelming. They made dinner for us... They baked cookies for us.... They arranged a kayak tour for us... The list goes on and on. My personal favorite was when we went out to breakfast and the cook came out of the kitchen to "Kiss Allison's Momma!"
Every one of these people took me aside to tell me what a wonderful person Allison was and how fortunate they were to have her in their lives. WHAT A GIFT..... TO ME!
It is hard to be a parent. It is VERY hard to be a good parent. Allison is my reward for working so hard...
Crafty and Chad
I am not going to tell you what a wonderful time we all had - that's a given!
I am not going to report that this was the best year EVER - we say that every year.
I am not going to say that there is no vacation like a "girls' vacation - if you have never done it, you would not understand; and if you have, you know it is the truth!
I AM going to tell you what I learned on this trip. I learned that my daughter, Allison, is a very special person. She was always wonderful in my eyes, but this trip afforded me the opportunity to see her and get to know her through other people's eyes.
I was coming down to see Allison with friends and family in tow. Yes, she knew all these people - but I know, in my heart, everything she did - she did for me. She worked as many hours as she had to, in order to be able to spend my entire vacation with us. She and her wonderful roommates (Crafty and Chad) went from store to store shopping and preparing before we got there. She and Crafty picked us all up at the airport in grand style and brought us to the house we rented. The house was fully stocked with: prepared food and snacks, assorted cocktail fixings and the A/C running full blast!
During the course of the next few days, we met and socialized with MANY of Allison's friends. These people ran the gamut: men/women, single/married, gay/straight, Americans/Foreigners, and even little children comprised this group. It was the most interesting 5 days of my life! The laughter and camaraderie was overwhelming. They made dinner for us... They baked cookies for us.... They arranged a kayak tour for us... The list goes on and on. My personal favorite was when we went out to breakfast and the cook came out of the kitchen to "Kiss Allison's Momma!"
Every one of these people took me aside to tell me what a wonderful person Allison was and how fortunate they were to have her in their lives. WHAT A GIFT..... TO ME!
It is hard to be a parent. It is VERY hard to be a good parent. Allison is my reward for working so hard...
Crafty and Chad
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Checking on Allison
We leave in 2 days for our annual "girls' trip". When Allison first relocated to the Florida Keys, my sister-in-law and I made a vow to go 'check on her' at least one a year. Each year we make the ultimate sacrifice, leave our spouses behind and go do some serious bonding with Allison.
I am happy to say that we have some wonderful friends and family who have offered to accompany us on this tiresome trek. They have been incredibly supportive throughout the years and we are entirely grateful.
This year, I have asked Michelle to join us. This will be her first trip without her husband, but Michelle would do anything for her sister. She and Allison really need to spend some quality time together.
Allison and I have a little ritual that we do whenever we see eachother. We share a bracelet. Each time we see eachother, we put it on the other's wrist. This visit, the bracelet will go to her. I will miss seeing it on my arm, but when I look down at the empty wrist, I will always know that it is safely with Allison. It is a simple little bracelet, but it holds so much meaning to the two of us.
There will be 7 of us this year and we have rented a little house, with a pool for (cough) water aerobics. We will drink filtered water and green tea, we will eat healthy, organic foods. I am hoping for some quiet chats, some time to read, and the opportunity to reflect on the meaning of life - - - but I am afraid you, my faithful readers, will never know if that happens.... afterall, what happens in Key West, STAYS in Key West!!
I am happy to say that we have some wonderful friends and family who have offered to accompany us on this tiresome trek. They have been incredibly supportive throughout the years and we are entirely grateful.
This year, I have asked Michelle to join us. This will be her first trip without her husband, but Michelle would do anything for her sister. She and Allison really need to spend some quality time together.
Allison and I have a little ritual that we do whenever we see eachother. We share a bracelet. Each time we see eachother, we put it on the other's wrist. This visit, the bracelet will go to her. I will miss seeing it on my arm, but when I look down at the empty wrist, I will always know that it is safely with Allison. It is a simple little bracelet, but it holds so much meaning to the two of us.
There will be 7 of us this year and we have rented a little house, with a pool for (cough) water aerobics. We will drink filtered water and green tea, we will eat healthy, organic foods. I am hoping for some quiet chats, some time to read, and the opportunity to reflect on the meaning of life - - - but I am afraid you, my faithful readers, will never know if that happens.... afterall, what happens in Key West, STAYS in Key West!!
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Life's Not Fair
I guess this blog post is a LONG time coming. If you are a faithful reader (and I think there are 2 of you out there) you know that my son, Michael, has been battling cancer for the past year and a half. To say that the family has been on an emotional roller coaster would be a gross trivialization of the effects his disease has had on this family.
Michael is extremely intelligent, self-motivated, stubborn, independent, arrogant, kind, generous to a fault, and strong willed. When he was first diagnosed, he kept it to himself - thinking he could make it go away without 'burdening' his family. Once he did tell us, I could tell it was like opening a relief valve for him. FINALLY, he could talk about it.
It was interesting to watch him with his siblings. He was always so guarded around them and warned me "not to tell them everything" as he did not want them to fret about him. He constantly said, "They all have enough on their plate without worrying about me". I remember their first reactions very well: Bobby was somber, Allison did not believe him, and Michelle cried (what a surprise!).
This has been a long year and a half. Michael did chemo and tried radiation. He was WELL READ on the subject and had a clear picture of possible outcomes. Unfortunatley, his stubborness, arrogance and strong will worked against him this time. It was not until this week that he finally came to the realization that HE cannot control this disease. He finally understands that if he does not act quickly now, this DISEASE will control him.
As he readied himself for the inevitable surgery, I watched several things happen within my family:
-----I saw Michael's siblings gather around him like a safety net - and they did it on HIS terms. They did it with texts and phone calls, never invading his privacy. They were relentless when he did not respond. They listened to him. They talked to him. They comforted him. They reassured him. They badgered him. They loved him.
-----I watched as Mr. Wonderful picked up the reins and held up both of us during this trying time. I thanked God for the strength in my marriage. I love how Mr. W. and I always seem stronger and closer as we face adversity.
-----I noticed how extended family and friends walked on egg shells around us - protecting us from daily nonsense and offering support should we need it.
Michael said to me last night, "this is just not fair". I told him it was about time he realized that! Life is not fair... but it is worth it.... so you gotta keep fighting...
Michael is extremely intelligent, self-motivated, stubborn, independent, arrogant, kind, generous to a fault, and strong willed. When he was first diagnosed, he kept it to himself - thinking he could make it go away without 'burdening' his family. Once he did tell us, I could tell it was like opening a relief valve for him. FINALLY, he could talk about it.
It was interesting to watch him with his siblings. He was always so guarded around them and warned me "not to tell them everything" as he did not want them to fret about him. He constantly said, "They all have enough on their plate without worrying about me". I remember their first reactions very well: Bobby was somber, Allison did not believe him, and Michelle cried (what a surprise!).
This has been a long year and a half. Michael did chemo and tried radiation. He was WELL READ on the subject and had a clear picture of possible outcomes. Unfortunatley, his stubborness, arrogance and strong will worked against him this time. It was not until this week that he finally came to the realization that HE cannot control this disease. He finally understands that if he does not act quickly now, this DISEASE will control him.
As he readied himself for the inevitable surgery, I watched several things happen within my family:
-----I saw Michael's siblings gather around him like a safety net - and they did it on HIS terms. They did it with texts and phone calls, never invading his privacy. They were relentless when he did not respond. They listened to him. They talked to him. They comforted him. They reassured him. They badgered him. They loved him.
-----I watched as Mr. Wonderful picked up the reins and held up both of us during this trying time. I thanked God for the strength in my marriage. I love how Mr. W. and I always seem stronger and closer as we face adversity.
-----I noticed how extended family and friends walked on egg shells around us - protecting us from daily nonsense and offering support should we need it.
Michael said to me last night, "this is just not fair". I told him it was about time he realized that! Life is not fair... but it is worth it.... so you gotta keep fighting...
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Extended Family
Had a very interesting weekend.
Saturday, we celebrated Rosh Hashanah with our neighbors. They had a lot of family over and they included Mr. Wonderful and I in the celebration. It was wonderful to be a part of the day. Their great-nephew and 3 great-neices were at the house - is there anything better than spending the day with little children (And then kissing them good-bye and going home to a little serenity)? I spent a good portion of the visit snuggling with a beautiful one year old, Annabella. She just warmed my heart as she held on to me while I rocked her. Watching the antics of the 2 yr. olds was so much fun, too. I always say, "you can never love too many children." I think there were some adults in the room also.... but I am not sure.
On Sunday, we spent the day with my son-in-law's family. It was another beautiful day filled with laughter and love. I remember when it was time to leave - you know us Italians, "WE GOTTA KISS EVERYBODY!!!" - and so we went from room to room, kissing and hugging. I made some new friends that day - we are all buddies on "Facebook" now!
Although I missed my Sunday Dinner at home with my kids, I realized something wonderful this weekend. We are truly blessed to have such an extended family that simply enjoys being together.
Saturday, we celebrated Rosh Hashanah with our neighbors. They had a lot of family over and they included Mr. Wonderful and I in the celebration. It was wonderful to be a part of the day. Their great-nephew and 3 great-neices were at the house - is there anything better than spending the day with little children (And then kissing them good-bye and going home to a little serenity)? I spent a good portion of the visit snuggling with a beautiful one year old, Annabella. She just warmed my heart as she held on to me while I rocked her. Watching the antics of the 2 yr. olds was so much fun, too. I always say, "you can never love too many children." I think there were some adults in the room also.... but I am not sure.
On Sunday, we spent the day with my son-in-law's family. It was another beautiful day filled with laughter and love. I remember when it was time to leave - you know us Italians, "WE GOTTA KISS EVERYBODY!!!" - and so we went from room to room, kissing and hugging. I made some new friends that day - we are all buddies on "Facebook" now!
Although I missed my Sunday Dinner at home with my kids, I realized something wonderful this weekend. We are truly blessed to have such an extended family that simply enjoys being together.
Thursday, September 09, 2010
Some precious moments
Life goes by so fast. When I lay in bed at night, sometimes I watch the video of recent events (always in fast-forward). It is easy to harp on the rotten things that happen in your life - but, seriously, I have found it much more pleasant to reflect on the best things that happen to me.
Just this past weekend:
Bobby and Michael sitting next to each other with their new phones in their hands. One of them is saying, "Yea, but can your phone do this?" And the other one answering, "Oh yea? WATCH THIS!" Seeing them giggle and tease each other like they did when they were 5 and 7 yrs old. - Then watching the two of them run out to do some quick shopping together as I prepared dinner. Hearing them come back into the house, still laughing, conspiring.... HOW WONDERFUL WAS THAT?!?!?!
Brandy (the new puppy) jumping out of the car window on the way to the park. She was so excited to play with her friends that she just could not wait for the car to stop! Yes, it cost an arm and a leg at the vet - but she did not break anything - HOW WONDERFUL WAS THAT!!!
Holding my friend's new baby granddaughter - just 2 weeks old. Cuddling that baby, rocking her in my arms, putting her to sleep. Kissing her head. Feeling my heart swell with love (afterall, can you really ever love too many children?). Then having her mom ask me, "Can Olivia call you Guga, too?".... HOW WONDERFUL WAS THAT?
Looking into another friend's eyes and trying with all my might to give her the right words and strength to deal with her husband's terrible illness. Having her hug me and thank me for helping her.... HOW WONDERFUL WAS THAT??
Making a dinner and birthday cake to celebrate Suse's birthday. Having friends and family all around the table together. Everyone pitching in to make it a stress-fee day. Hearing the noise level just below a roar, but just loud enough to be slighlty annoying to anyone who does not know us. Laughing until our sides hurt. Watching the evening come to a close as Bobby carries out his last load of laundry. Knowing that it takes this family just as long to say good-bye to each other as it does to find a parking spot at Macy's during a one-day sale - (even though we will all see each other next week!) .... HOW WONDDERFUL WAS THAT?
I feel blessed that I can find wonderful moments all the time, in all that we do. I hope my children will always remember to savor the little joys in everyday life.
Just this past weekend:
Bobby and Michael sitting next to each other with their new phones in their hands. One of them is saying, "Yea, but can your phone do this?" And the other one answering, "Oh yea? WATCH THIS!" Seeing them giggle and tease each other like they did when they were 5 and 7 yrs old. - Then watching the two of them run out to do some quick shopping together as I prepared dinner. Hearing them come back into the house, still laughing, conspiring.... HOW WONDERFUL WAS THAT?!?!?!
Brandy (the new puppy) jumping out of the car window on the way to the park. She was so excited to play with her friends that she just could not wait for the car to stop! Yes, it cost an arm and a leg at the vet - but she did not break anything - HOW WONDERFUL WAS THAT!!!
Holding my friend's new baby granddaughter - just 2 weeks old. Cuddling that baby, rocking her in my arms, putting her to sleep. Kissing her head. Feeling my heart swell with love (afterall, can you really ever love too many children?). Then having her mom ask me, "Can Olivia call you Guga, too?".... HOW WONDERFUL WAS THAT?
Looking into another friend's eyes and trying with all my might to give her the right words and strength to deal with her husband's terrible illness. Having her hug me and thank me for helping her.... HOW WONDERFUL WAS THAT??
Making a dinner and birthday cake to celebrate Suse's birthday. Having friends and family all around the table together. Everyone pitching in to make it a stress-fee day. Hearing the noise level just below a roar, but just loud enough to be slighlty annoying to anyone who does not know us. Laughing until our sides hurt. Watching the evening come to a close as Bobby carries out his last load of laundry. Knowing that it takes this family just as long to say good-bye to each other as it does to find a parking spot at Macy's during a one-day sale - (even though we will all see each other next week!) .... HOW WONDDERFUL WAS THAT?
I feel blessed that I can find wonderful moments all the time, in all that we do. I hope my children will always remember to savor the little joys in everyday life.
Monday, August 30, 2010
Summer Wrap-Up
I am considering this Summer one of the best in my life so far.
We started the season with a visit from Allison in May. This, of course, meant we had to have a party!! YAY!!
Shortly thereafter, we heard of the birth of a dozen St. Bernard pups out in Michigan. This was followed by Mr. Wonderful dancing around the house chanting, "I WANT ONE! I WANT ONE! I WANT ONE!" There were several negotiations, but finally a decision was made and plans were set in place to get a puppy.
An impromptu 4th of July get-away to Florida led to us meeting my new friend, face to face (see previous post).
Then it was off to Michigan. Little Michael and I had a wonderful adventure and made an awesome memory. Bringing Brandy home to Mr. Wonderful was almost as exciting as giving birth to my last child... (in many ways, it was MORE exciting... sorry, Bobby)
Who could forget the 80th Surprise Birthday party for my mom?? (still putting away stuff from that party....)
I entertained classmates from high school - we had not seen eachother in 36 years!!
OFF TO BOSTON!!! Allison and I had the BEST TIME EVER!! We partied hardy and slept little!! When I got off the plane in NY, with my sunglasses and baseball cap and Mr. Wonderful greeted me with the biggest kiss and hug and said, "You look beautiful", I fell in love with him all over again.
KUDOS to Michelle, "Fred", and Allison as they journey through the withdrawal of cigarettes. I am so proud of you all.
We will officially wrap up the Summer with a BBQ at a friend's house this weekend.
All that is left of the Summer is to pick the rest of the tomatoes off the plants, and dry the herbs from my herb garden.... OH YEAH - AND LOOK FORWARD TO THE KEY WEST TRIP AT THE END OF SEPTEMBER!!!!!
As always, there are many tribulations in life... it is the wise person who chooses to focus on the joys and blessings... They say wisdom comes with age. I am looking forward to growing old....
We started the season with a visit from Allison in May. This, of course, meant we had to have a party!! YAY!!
Shortly thereafter, we heard of the birth of a dozen St. Bernard pups out in Michigan. This was followed by Mr. Wonderful dancing around the house chanting, "I WANT ONE! I WANT ONE! I WANT ONE!" There were several negotiations, but finally a decision was made and plans were set in place to get a puppy.
An impromptu 4th of July get-away to Florida led to us meeting my new friend, face to face (see previous post).
Then it was off to Michigan. Little Michael and I had a wonderful adventure and made an awesome memory. Bringing Brandy home to Mr. Wonderful was almost as exciting as giving birth to my last child... (in many ways, it was MORE exciting... sorry, Bobby)
Who could forget the 80th Surprise Birthday party for my mom?? (still putting away stuff from that party....)
I entertained classmates from high school - we had not seen eachother in 36 years!!
OFF TO BOSTON!!! Allison and I had the BEST TIME EVER!! We partied hardy and slept little!! When I got off the plane in NY, with my sunglasses and baseball cap and Mr. Wonderful greeted me with the biggest kiss and hug and said, "You look beautiful", I fell in love with him all over again.
KUDOS to Michelle, "Fred", and Allison as they journey through the withdrawal of cigarettes. I am so proud of you all.
We will officially wrap up the Summer with a BBQ at a friend's house this weekend.
All that is left of the Summer is to pick the rest of the tomatoes off the plants, and dry the herbs from my herb garden.... OH YEAH - AND LOOK FORWARD TO THE KEY WEST TRIP AT THE END OF SEPTEMBER!!!!!
As always, there are many tribulations in life... it is the wise person who chooses to focus on the joys and blessings... They say wisdom comes with age. I am looking forward to growing old....
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Hey Ma, wanna come?
Each year Outback Restaurant runs a contest, sponsored by Sam Adams. The restaurants compete against each other to see who can sell the most Sam Adams beer in a specified period of time. Happy to say, Allison has won AGAIN. The winner gets an all expense paid trip (for 2) to Boston. Allison told me that she has won the contest so many years in a row that they are thinking of renaming the contest to, "Let's send Allison to Boston again".
When she called to tell me she won, I was as proud as I was when she was 10 and her softball team won first place. Mothers revel in their children's victories. When she continued with her conversation and asked if I would be her guest I was THRILLED beyond belief!!
It is always wonderful when Allison comes home to visit.
I always plan an annual trip with a group of women to go visit Allison and we look forward to the planning and executing of that trip each year, too.
But THIS trip is different. This will just be Allison and me.... no other family, no other friends. We will have some quality time together - and the best thing of all.... it was HER idea....
When she called to tell me she won, I was as proud as I was when she was 10 and her softball team won first place. Mothers revel in their children's victories. When she continued with her conversation and asked if I would be her guest I was THRILLED beyond belief!!
It is always wonderful when Allison comes home to visit.
I always plan an annual trip with a group of women to go visit Allison and we look forward to the planning and executing of that trip each year, too.
But THIS trip is different. This will just be Allison and me.... no other family, no other friends. We will have some quality time together - and the best thing of all.... it was HER idea....
Monday, August 09, 2010
Catholic School Education
Things I have learned in Catholic School:
God is everywhere and He loves everyone.
You should go to Church every Sunday and every Holy Day of Obligation.
There are 2 kinds of sins: Venial Sin and Mortal Sin
Sex is for the sole purpose of creating life. The church does not sanction birth control.
There are 7 Sacraments: Baptism, Penance, First Communion, Confirmation, Matrimony, Holy Orders, and Last Rites
GOD is made up of the Trinity: God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit.
There are 10 Commandments and they should be the guideline for how you live your life.
There are Angels and Saints who will help us if we ask.
It is better to give than to receive.
Always bless yourself with Holy Water upon entering and exiting the Church.
No matter how thin you are, you can never look good in a pleated skirt –
I learned that when it seems like you are all alone in the world, God reaches out and holds your heart for you.
I think the most important lesson I learned in Catholic School is to smile and be nice to people. Having hooked up with old classmates through facebook, I have been told over and over that the one thing they remember is me smiling all the time. What a wonderful way to be remembered!!
I guess it WAS worth all that tuition!
God is everywhere and He loves everyone.
You should go to Church every Sunday and every Holy Day of Obligation.
There are 2 kinds of sins: Venial Sin and Mortal Sin
Sex is for the sole purpose of creating life. The church does not sanction birth control.
There are 7 Sacraments: Baptism, Penance, First Communion, Confirmation, Matrimony, Holy Orders, and Last Rites
GOD is made up of the Trinity: God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit.
There are 10 Commandments and they should be the guideline for how you live your life.
There are Angels and Saints who will help us if we ask.
It is better to give than to receive.
Always bless yourself with Holy Water upon entering and exiting the Church.
No matter how thin you are, you can never look good in a pleated skirt –
I learned that when it seems like you are all alone in the world, God reaches out and holds your heart for you.
I think the most important lesson I learned in Catholic School is to smile and be nice to people. Having hooked up with old classmates through facebook, I have been told over and over that the one thing they remember is me smiling all the time. What a wonderful way to be remembered!!
I guess it WAS worth all that tuition!
Wednesday, August 04, 2010
You are HOW OLD??
I recently hosted a surprise 80th birthday party for my mom. We gave her a surprise 50th and a surprise 75th - I figured we didn't have to do it again until she was 100, but I was out-voted. My mom always thought is best to keep her age a secret (yeah, I know... I don't get it either...)
I have been struggling about how to write about this party. I can choose to recall all the ridiculous effort that went into pulling off the surprise. I can tell about the hard work and $$$ that goes into such an affair. I can even let you all know how we worked at coming up with the guest list.... But I think it is better to remember the sweeter moments...
I loved how the out-of-state guests (Allison and my sister) came a day early so we could start the party the day before the actual event.
I loved how we had a betting pool to see how long it would take my mother to say something stupid about our new puppy. Mr. Wonderful won, he guessed 10 seconds.
I loved how Allison told my mom how nice it was that we finally got a dog (St. Bernard) who can carry her ashes.
I loved how Bobby supplied the Ice Luge so we could all have ice cold Black Cherry Bacardi shots.
I loved how my cousins did not bat an eye when I asked them to travel from Jersey to Long Island on a Saturday in the Summer (God Bless you all for not mentioning the Hampton's Beach Traffic).
I loved how a "second generation cousin" actually WANTED to be there and she came bearing gifts - ASSORTED JELLO SHOTS!!
I loved how my 83 yr. old aunt (mom's sister) smacked me several times for making irreverent statements (WHO, ME? Irreverent??)
I loved how Mr. Wonderful volunteered to drive home some kids so they could continue to party until wee hours of the night.
I loved how "extended family" (read that: "Angela and Linda's friends") were happy to be a part of it all and helped in making the day a success.
I loved when I woke up the next morning, knowing that the house was still overflowing with love from the day before.
Happy Birthday, Mom. Thanks for giving me the excuse to have a party and make so many wonderful memories with my family.
Brother, Sister, Mother, ME!
I have been struggling about how to write about this party. I can choose to recall all the ridiculous effort that went into pulling off the surprise. I can tell about the hard work and $$$ that goes into such an affair. I can even let you all know how we worked at coming up with the guest list.... But I think it is better to remember the sweeter moments...
I loved how the out-of-state guests (Allison and my sister) came a day early so we could start the party the day before the actual event.
I loved how we had a betting pool to see how long it would take my mother to say something stupid about our new puppy. Mr. Wonderful won, he guessed 10 seconds.
I loved how Allison told my mom how nice it was that we finally got a dog (St. Bernard) who can carry her ashes.
I loved how Bobby supplied the Ice Luge so we could all have ice cold Black Cherry Bacardi shots.
I loved how my cousins did not bat an eye when I asked them to travel from Jersey to Long Island on a Saturday in the Summer (God Bless you all for not mentioning the Hampton's Beach Traffic).
I loved how a "second generation cousin" actually WANTED to be there and she came bearing gifts - ASSORTED JELLO SHOTS!!
I loved how my 83 yr. old aunt (mom's sister) smacked me several times for making irreverent statements (WHO, ME? Irreverent??)
I loved how Mr. Wonderful volunteered to drive home some kids so they could continue to party until wee hours of the night.
I loved how "extended family" (read that: "Angela and Linda's friends") were happy to be a part of it all and helped in making the day a success.
I loved when I woke up the next morning, knowing that the house was still overflowing with love from the day before.
Happy Birthday, Mom. Thanks for giving me the excuse to have a party and make so many wonderful memories with my family.
Brother, Sister, Mother, ME!
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